Belated Birthday Wishes
September 25, 2009
Birthdays are meant for celebration. A day with special meaning connected with you bringing joy and happiness to your household. Birthday is a joyous occasion. It depends on how an individual feels about birthdays.
Young adults are in a hurry to get older while those in their mid-twenties worry about ageing. Men and women in their thirties dilly dally in admitting their correct age while those in their forties begin a new innings of their life.
Most of us plan a small event to celebrate birthdays. It could be an intimate gathering of friends and family sharing a meal or taking friends out for a movie and dinner or going for a romantic night out with your partner or husband. But what if the person or friends who you cherish the most forgets about your birthday?
Belated birthday wishes are most annoying. If you have forgotten then forget about it totally. Wishing someone with belated birthday wishes means nothing. It shows you in poor light. It clearly indicates that you don’t care enough about the person. If you did, then you would have wished on the apt day.
I agree, it is not always possible to remember everyone’s birthday but there are simple ways to make people aware that you care. There are various online birthday reminder software’s available where you can add your friends list of birthdays and anniversaries. You can make use of your mobile phone’s notes and add the birthday date and keep an alarm as reminder. Various online e-cards have the facility of sending your chosen card and message on the exact birthday, and this facility is free. They maintain a good database where you can prepare and queue your e-card a month in advance.
Sending your friend belated birthday sms or text messages is another sure shot way to make the person know how indifferent you are. A phone call is the ideal way to apologize instead of a belated birthday wishes e-card or sms.
Birthday comes only once a year. If you care about the person then you will make sure that you don’t miss the opportunity to wish them well. If you have forgotten your girlfriend’s birthday then rest assured that an apology will never work unless you were struggling between life and death. You will have work extra hard to make it up to her. Make a note of her birthday immediately so that you don’t repeat this mistake again in the coming years. Belated birthday wishes are not an acceptable norm atleast amongst close friends.
Here are some tips on how to buy a birthday gift for your friend or partner.
If you are on a limited budget then this article is just for you- Shopping On A Budget.
Buying presents is not everyone’s forte. The following article gives you an insight on the types of gifts that you can present besides flowers, box of scented candles or chocolate hampers -A Practical Guide To Buying Gifts.
How to select the right type of perfume for your lady friend is also not easy. Find out the right perfume based on her personality- How To Smell Right-A Guide To Choose Perfumes.
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Staying Single Is Not A Curse
August 29, 2009
Being single is not a personal choice for many but life’s circumstances create situations where one is forced to make certain choices. Many give in to those choices and later regret their decision. Some fear these regrets and decide never to venture into them. Others take lessons from friend’s relationship and marital problems. This is a circle where you want to get in and once you are in, you want to get out.
There is still a stigma in certain societies where a woman is looked down upon for staying single. Gossipers think that she may have been heartbroken and too depressed to find a companion. Others believe, she is secretly married and her husband has left her. Fingers are always pointed at but not realizing the emotional wellbeing of that most talked about individual.
Staying in relationships that do not have a future is the worst relationship that one can get into. There is a ray of hope that maybe someday everything will be perfect but it rarely does. Emotional relationships are the most difficult ones to manage because the feelings are embedded deep and digging out the love, affection for that person even with a shovel and pickaxe never work.
Emotional scars rarely heal and even if they do, the marks always remain. It depends on an individual’s inner strength and willingness to forgive and forget. Another hurdle in a relationship is when one of the partners detaches and prefers to move on. Breaking up is easy for them because they have made up their mind what they want from their life partner and the current one, doesn’t fit the bill.
Strange but true, today’s world consists of individuals who follow the principle of “use and throw.” It is similar to that of a tissue. When you are done with the person, you dump him/her with some reason and move on to a new tissue. And yes, tissues come in varieties too. Some are with softer ply, scented, wet ones and so on.
Some women are adventurous who have tried out all the options of relationships and after experiencing them, have decided to stay single. Whether you are a man or a woman staying single is a personal choice. If you are a woman, certain societies do want to know why. If you are well supported by friends and family then the emotional stability is better. But then, do we always reveal what we genuinely feel inside?
But the reality-there is no prince charming, no true soul mate and no living happily ever after. These terms look appropriate in romance and fiction stories. Such fairy tale concepts look nice in Disney animation movies.
Staying single is not a curse. It is choice from staying away from cheating spouses, demanding and controlling mother-in-laws, and loveless relationships. Self sacrifice, adjustments should be done only for those who you think do deserve. The rest are out there just for some fun who steal away your self-worth and dignity and never look back.
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In Search Of Happiness
July 29, 2009
True happiness is rare to find but it is not impossible. Most people delve into the deeper meaning of the word happiness. They ponder; debate endlessly to seek the answer to “what is the definition of happiness?”
The search for happiness slows them down and some lose interest in finding it. Some feel possession of wealth is happiness, while others believe money can buy happiness. But what is this word that defines happiness?
To me, happiness is a state of mind. It is a feeling that can be experienced by any individual based on what they are feeling at that point in life and what they desire from life. A big bowl of candy will make a little child extremely excited. The sight of different flavored candies in his possession is happiness for that kid.
Winning a lottery for some people will be their ultimate happiness while for another individual being able to travel to all places of pilgrimage, participating in spiritual activities brings them happiness.
Happiness doesn’t ring the doorbell and walk right into our lives. Firstly, one needs to understand what makes them happy. Secondly, how will they go about finding this happiness? Once they have identified their happiness and its source, then they need a plan how to get it. After planning, comes the implementation of the plan, then monitoring the plan and then reaching out for the happiness. Then finally, if you set everything in perfect harmony, then you will surely deserve that happiness.
Yes! This certainly sounds like a lengthy and technical way to achieve happiness. But actually it is pretty simple. Find out what makes you happy and go look for it.
If you believe that a particular man or woman makes you happy then you should approach the person. You can be direct and say that you want him to be part of your life and propose. Or take a subtle approach, date him, spend time with him, let him understand you better and wait for him to pop the question. Once you know your goal, then it is half the battle won.
If you are not appreciated at your workplace, where your inputs are ignored and the pay barely covers your expenses, you will surely quit and find a better job. This is pretty simple. The job never gave you any happiness so you move on.
Searching for happiness is a never-ending task. Nothing satiates the human mind. If one has completed one task, they seek for the next. Seeking happiness can be an obsession and also at times an addiction.
Many give up on finding happiness and only dream of it, while others strive at it. Whatever maybe the source of happiness, it should not be forgotten. This is what makes life worth living for. An aimless life is a worthless life. If one learns nothing from life then that person has not appreciated the human form of life. Look inside your mind, spirit and soul, find out what truly makes you happy and devise a plan to achieve it. Then you will understand the real fulfilling sensation of being happy.
Real happiness is bliss and that can be achieved only when the human soul unites with the divine soul or receives enough grace that he is able to enjoy this bliss in spite of living in Kaliyuga and in the human form, in other words – Sat-Cit-Ananda. According to the religious text – Brahma Samhita, in it verse (Sloka) 5.1
īśvarah paramah krsnah sac-cid-ānanda-vigrahah anādir ādir govindah sarva-kārana-kāranam
Lord Krishna who is known as Govinda is the Supreme Godhead. He has an eternal blissful spiritual body. He is the origin of all. He has no other origin and He is the prime cause of all causes.
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