Staying Single Is Not A Curse
August 29, 2009
Being single is not a personal choice for many but life’s circumstances create situations where one is forced to make certain choices. Many give in to those choices and later regret their decision. Some fear these regrets and decide never to venture into them. Others take lessons from friend’s relationship and marital problems. This is a circle where you want to get in and once you are in, you want to get out.
There is still a stigma in certain societies where a woman is looked down upon for staying single. Gossipers think that she may have been heartbroken and too depressed to find a companion. Others believe, she is secretly married and her husband has left her. Fingers are always pointed at but not realizing the emotional wellbeing of that most talked about individual.
Staying in relationships that do not have a future is the worst relationship that one can get into. There is a ray of hope that maybe someday everything will be perfect but it rarely does. Emotional relationships are the most difficult ones to manage because the feelings are embedded deep and digging out the love, affection for that person even with a shovel and pickaxe never work.
Emotional scars rarely heal and even if they do, the marks always remain. It depends on an individual’s inner strength and willingness to forgive and forget. Another hurdle in a relationship is when one of the partners detaches and prefers to move on. Breaking up is easy for them because they have made up their mind what they want from their life partner and the current one, doesn’t fit the bill.
Strange but true, today’s world consists of individuals who follow the principle of “use and throw.” It is similar to that of a tissue. When you are done with the person, you dump him/her with some reason and move on to a new tissue. And yes, tissues come in varieties too. Some are with softer ply, scented, wet ones and so on.
Some women are adventurous who have tried out all the options of relationships and after experiencing them, have decided to stay single. Whether you are a man or a woman staying single is a personal choice. If you are a woman, certain societies do want to know why. If you are well supported by friends and family then the emotional stability is better. But then, do we always reveal what we genuinely feel inside?
But the reality-there is no prince charming, no true soul mate and no living happily ever after. These terms look appropriate in romance and fiction stories. Such fairy tale concepts look nice in Disney animation movies.
Staying single is not a curse. It is choice from staying away from cheating spouses, demanding and controlling mother-in-laws, and loveless relationships. Self sacrifice, adjustments should be done only for those who you think do deserve. The rest are out there just for some fun who steal away your self-worth and dignity and never look back.
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